I’ve been writing a lot of practical, SEO-friendly content lately. The reason for this is fairly mundane; I’m trying to grow my website, trying to improve my income, all the usual stuff. However, I feel compelled to write this post after the events of this weekend. It’s a topic that’s never far from the forefront of my mind, mainly because it’s something I feel many of us feel trapped within. Social media. Or, more realistically, Antisocial media.

If you’re reading this way into the future, I’m coming back to this topic after the suicide of TV presenter Caroline Flack on…


In this post in my Freelancer’s Guide series, I’m going to be looking at freelancer portfolio building and how to get started with it. I’m going to talk you through how to build a freelancer portfolio from scratch, using free tools as much as possible. If you’re planning on going freelance at any time in the future, it’s really important to get this bit right. There are a couple of affiliate links in this post to tools that I think will help you design and create your own portfolio for free. …


Hi. So, today I want to talk to you about what to do if your blog gets hacked. When I say ‘if’, what I really mean is ‘when’, because honestly, it’s going to happen. It happens so, so often, and I feel like I really need to share some advice on this topic. In the last few weeks, I’ve worked pretty much solidly to clean up and restore at least three hacked websites and I’m noticing a worryingly similar pattern. Be warned, this is a long (but important) read.

Security. Or lack thereof. Actually, not even just that, a lack…


I recently wrote a post about the epidemic of unsolicited indecent exposure via social media that many women are currently enduring. It’s strange to reflect on how, at the time of writing, I didn’t actually think that the topic itself was anything out of the ordinary. That the discussion of just how commonplace the receipt of these unwanted images, or cyber-flashing, wouldn’t be anything particularly groundbreaking.

In hindsight, the fact that I actually thought like this bothers me. It shows how quietly indifferent my sense of social justice has become, to think that such a topic wasn’t something that many…


Towards the end of last year and the beginning of this, my eyes were rather unceremoniously blinded by the sight of something no one really needs to see. Over various online channels, I began to receive social media messages from people I didn’t know. More specifically, messages from men I don’t know. Now, this isn’t news, it happens to lots of people. Unsolicited messages, tweets and the like are bound to happen when you have a profile in the public domain. However, what was new to me was the content of these messages.

The very graphic content of these messages.


In our digital culture, there’s no doubt that social media has revolutionised the way we communicate with one another. When you consider the strides forward we’ve taken in the field of technology over the last twenty years, it’s actually quite inspiring…and a little bit frightening. But what about social media burnout? Is it important and what do you need to be aware of?

Social media burnout is a very real thing, and it’s becoming even more prevalent of late. Our lifestyles are increasingly played out online now, and I’ve seen many good friends in the blogging world succumb to the…


Anxiety and overthinking. They’re two sides of the same, horrible coin. If you’re anything like me, you know that this is a tough subject to navigate.

The very nature of anxiety is something that leaves you with a sense of unease, dread, even panic. But the overthinking? That’s another beast entirely.

Overthinking is, for me, one of the most nauseating side-effects of anxiety. It induces such internal isolation, a loneliness that can swallow you whole, even whilst sitting in a room full of people.

The link between anxiety and overthinking is a cruel one; if you struggle with anxiety you’ll…


How messy is your sleep routine? No, not your bedroom. I’m talking about your actual sleep routine. Have you got one? Have you ever thought about this before? If I had a tenner for the number of people who are always tired, I’d be Alan Sugar. Now, I’ve got an excuse (more on that later) for being consistently exhausted — but do you? If not, maybe it’s time to have a long hard look at your sleep routine, and try out my 5 ways to tidy it up a bit.

Sleep routines are for kids. I’m an adult.

Yes. Yes, you are. An adult who’s probably completely run-down…


One of the most under-diagnosed conditions in the UK, narcolepsy is something I discovered I had when I was 27. I won’t go into the details of how I finally found out there was an explanation for the constant exhaustion I felt, because it’s way too long of a story to tell here. Suffice it to say, on the day I was first told I had narcolepsy, everything started to make sense.

For those who aren’t aware of this condition, narcolepsy is a sleep disorder that affects the brain’s natural ability to regulate the sleep-wake cycle. Unlike most common conceptions…


We’re not supposed to tell lies. Lies are dangerous, misleading. They cause pain and mistrust. And yet, there’s an undeniable freedom to be found in a lie.

Some lies are necessary. I’m not just talking of the little white ones we tell our friends when they ask us if we like their outfit, or the half-truths we tell our loved ones to spare their feelings. I’m talking about necessary lies, the ones we use to protect ourselves.

To liberate ourselves.

I find freedom in the lie of who I really am. A name, carefully crafted to retain and protect my…

Ar

Freelance Writer and Artist. Writes at Actual Ar and elsewhere. Black Sheep.

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